The Reflective Life

Living Wisely With Our Limits

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Abstract

How should you live? Should you devote yourself to perfecting a single talent or try to live a balanced life? Should you lighten up and have more fun, or buckle down and try to achieve greatness? Should you try to be a better friend? Should you be self-critical or self-accepting? And how should you decide among the possibilities open to you? Should you consult experts, listen to your parents, or should you do lots of research? Should you make lists of pros and cons, or go with your gut? These are not questions that can be answered in general or in the abstract. Rather, these questions are addressed to the first person point of view, to the perspective each of us occupies when we reflect on how to live without knowing exactly what we're aiming for. To answer them, this book focuses on the process of living one's life from the inside, rather than on defining goals from the outside. Drawing on traditional philosophical sources as well as literature and recent work in social psychology, this book argues that to live well, we need to develop reflective wisdom: to care about things that will sustain us and give us good experiences, to have perspective on our successes and failures, and to be moderately self-aware and cautiously optimistic about human nature. Further, we need to know when to think about our values, character, and choices, and when not to. A crucial part of wisdom, the book maintains, is being able to shift perspectives: to be self-critical; to be realistic; to examine life when reflection is appropriate, but not when we should lose ourselves in experience.

Original languageEnglish (US)
Place of PublicationOxford
PublisherOxford University Press
Number of pages240
ISBN (Electronic)9780191707988
ISBN (Print)9780199202867
DOIs
StatePublished - May 1 2008

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Keywords

  • Achievement
  • Balanced life
  • Experience
  • Friendship
  • Reflective wisdom
  • Self-acceptance
  • Self-awareness
  • Self-criticism
  • Talent

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The Reflective Life : Living Wisely With Our Limits. / Tiberius, Valerie.

Oxford : Oxford University Press, 2008. 240 p.

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Tiberius, Valerie. / The Reflective Life : Living Wisely With Our Limits. Oxford : Oxford University Press, 2008. 240 p.
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