The psychotherapy theory presented here has been influenced by Bowen Family Systems Theory and Symbolic Experiential Theory. It is suggested that life consists of struggles between many dichotomous spectra. Individuals in families engage in these struggles as well as in the struggle between autonomy and inclusion. It is suggested that the theory presented here is isomorphic to struggles people face in life everyday. Working from Bowen Systems Theory and Symbolic Experiential Theory at the same time creates tension as well as increases options for intervention in family therapy. How the theories diverge and how this difference qualifies the theories to be excellent companions is explained.